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« on: December 20, 2016, 08:10 am »

It is part of our innate nature as humans to consume things and because of this, when you get someone a cool gift they will respect you, and the opposite of that also.  Some might think that a good way pick a gift for someone is to observe what they like and then get them that as a gift, but often you will find that people already own the things that they like.  And if they don't, maybe they soon will, like when three friends all independently gifted my other friend a copy of Pete Murray's debut CD for one of his teenage birthdays.

I can think of SO MANY reasons why gifts are hard, but you'll have to wait for my Cracked article for that.  Anyway, I am bad at gifts.  I want to take inspiration from the good people who will post in this thread.  What is a good gift idea, a recent gift you purchased someone, or a clever way to approach this problem.  Are you a gift card person?  Do you do that weird thing where you ask leading questions before Christmas and everyone knows what you're getting at?  Let me know. Thanks.

(If you talk about a specific gift, give me a bit of backstory on the type of person you got it for).
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« Reply #1 on: December 20, 2016, 09:44 am »

I am very lazy and uncaring. So I tend to just pair everyone in my family with a standard combo of consumable (booze for drinkers, toiletry sets for none drinkers) and then for an attempt at being personal everyone gets a book I think they will like. I am wrong about that like 70% of the time, but its the one thing I try to deduce. Though even this can be passive aggressive, as last year I bought my mother half a dozen books on islam and socialist values I grouped together in what I called the "stop being such a nazi" pack.

For a partner I just buy them a "big thing" I know they would want (tickets to something, a rice cooker, tickets to see a rice cooker) and then a bunch of dumb joke presents, usually based around nicknames or referencing places we went that year or things we are going to do. So to save on shopping complexity its helpful to give them the nickname "tesco value chocolate bar" early in the relationship and only take them to tesco
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« Reply #2 on: December 20, 2016, 10:06 am »

Though speaking of the hardships of being a rich important middle class person now (that I am, constantly) I really find most gifts given to me are..

Things I either own better versions of already (see - always being given cheap bedsheets and towels by aunts, do I look like someone who doesnt already have two egyptian cotton sets, I dont want this nylon atrocity)

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Things I flat out do not want and struggle to pretend to like until I can get it to a charity shop (see - my mother getting me a 5 foot Jack Daniels branded picture last year to "decorate", I assume she thought I was opening a chain bar in my new house).


So I would appreciate that subtle "is there anything you are interested in" probing. As I try to push everyone politely down the route of buying me alcohol/toiletries/food as thats all usable or easily pushed on to someone else/shareable at xmas if not my thing.

We only have one kid in my family, but she is easy to buy for since I got her into superheroes and dinosaurs, so I mix up toys and books and vaguely educational sounding stuff around that area to try to combat the 90% disney and princess themed stuff everyone else gets her.
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« Reply #3 on: December 20, 2016, 12:51 pm »

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« Reply #4 on: December 21, 2016, 12:53 am »

I was always told to never buy something for someone else that you wouldn't buy for yourself (within reason of course).

With that said, I completely get your angst about buying gifts. The perfect gift needs to sit on that Venn diagram of thoughtful, surprising, meaningful. I would think that the prefect gift makes the recipient think: "I did not know I wanted this but this fulfills my heart's desires. The gift giver obviously knows me better than I could ever know myself."

Sadly this has never happen, I come form a family of notoriously bad gift-givers (drills for first wedding anniversaries, pranks of empty gift boxes, etc.). I even tried to surprise my GF at the time with a trip to Paris by doing a little stick drawing of her under the Eiffel tower, and she just assumed that the drawing WAS the gift.

Sigh.

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« Reply #5 on: December 21, 2016, 03:31 am »

I gave my fiancee a potato for Christmas one year. We're divorced now.
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« Reply #6 on: December 21, 2016, 02:40 pm »

get a thing they already have and enjoy having, so you know they will like your gift. if you are concerned about them having two of a thing, tell them that it is good to have back-ups and then hire a burglar to steal the original in a week. your giftee will be super grateful for your gift now, it'll be like a second christmas!
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« Reply #7 on: December 22, 2016, 06:52 am »

I'm a big fan of your mum.

HA!
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« Reply #8 on: December 22, 2016, 08:10 am »

I got everyone in my family one of these was this a good gift?
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« Reply #9 on: December 22, 2016, 08:56 am »

i got my whole family kit kats this year
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« Reply #10 on: December 22, 2016, 11:54 am »

Chunky?
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« Reply #11 on: December 22, 2016, 09:23 pm »

Please don't call me that.
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« Reply #12 on: December 23, 2016, 10:28 am »

big boned kit kats
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« Reply #13 on: December 24, 2016, 08:46 am »

Please don't call him that.
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« Reply #14 on: December 24, 2016, 06:47 pm »

my dad gave me a hangover for christmas
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« Reply #15 on: December 25, 2016, 09:11 am »

I got 4 cds and 2 shirts (they were good tho)
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« Reply #16 on: December 30, 2016, 10:58 pm »

Who did you get them for
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« Reply #17 on: January 02, 2017, 05:54 am »

I got them for myself. I know what I like.
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« Reply #18 on: January 02, 2017, 11:12 am »

so everyone liked their kit kats
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« Reply #19 on: January 08, 2017, 12:43 pm »

I gave my girlfriend a Sodastream. By the end of 2020 that thing will have paid for itself! She liked it so next year just give everyone a Sodastream or whatever
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